Resisiting Grief

A friend notices over time that his spouse is exhibiting behaviour that could be early signs of dementia.  His wife's friend, a registered nurse, confirms this privately to him. When his wife is acting strangely, he gets angry, then feels guilty because it could be illness causing her change in behaviour. Then he denies her symptoms. [...]

Fear Visits

If we have a quantity of fear that we can't bear to  examine, we cope by busying ourselves to ensure the unwelcome guest of fear does not set up residence in our mind. We busy ourselves with other "guests" - we turn on the TV that fills our environment with sound and images, we go [...]

Meditation, Genetics, Conditioned Response to Life

Not so long ago modern psychology defined a split between how we perceive our world; between flexible conditioned responses to stress, and our  genetic inherited traits, the latter then considered as immobile and concrete. At that time, researchers seemed confidant that our genetic predispositions were locked in genetic codes; that the only route to therapy lay within modifying conditioned responses. But recent evidence from the [...]

Managing Strong Emotions

Managing our stream of strong emotions is like having charge of maintaining and channeling a powerful river. If we fail to look after the river by clearing away debris and removing obstacles to the natural flow of water, then over time there will be log jams, overflow of the riverbanks, and uncontrollable flooding that destroys or hurts [...]

Mindfulness’ Role in Resentments

To understand "original fear" (from a previous post) with resentment, we must first understand resentment, which is the replaying in our minds of a past event. Resentments cause suffering but why can't we just let go? Understand resentment;  "re" means again, "sentment" comes from sentimental - emotions from the past. Resentment comes from our subconscious brain that stores all the memory of [...]