A winning team consists of a good player (you) and a good Coach.
A good coach has much experience, observing your deficiencies, offering you help in an unpredictable game.
And every good Coach knows there are two fundamental ways you win or lose the game;
1. When your opponent beats you
2. When you beat yourself
If we want to happy and free in solving our problems with living, we need to adopt a trusted inner Coach. If your current inner Coach isn’t a help in solving a problem, making a change is better than doing more of the same. We all need a Coach because if we never repeated the same mistakes, there would be no “history”.
Awareness is the first step in spotting your own defective maneuver or play, but you may be too close to yourself to be objective in offering a solution. An objective Coach can see the process of your mistake, offering small changes in your action to achieve a better result. At very least, a Coach preventing you from beating yourself has value.
In life we may have a habitual or willful blindness to our solution, or even the origin of the problem. At times we are too close to our own action to see a character defect. We might not want to admit we are losing, but the score is on the board. We ask ourselves, “At what point does the score get so bad that we can’t ignore it?”
In baseball or tennis or soccer, we might be thinking about the ball we just missed, instead of preparing for the coming pitch or pass. We may get frustrated, angry, emotional. We might tell ourselves a story that we are really not losing. When we stop reacting and start thinking, we admit that what we are doing is not working. Who do we ask for help? We need change, but in what direction? Ask the Coach.
In choosing a good Coach we should look for a power in the game who is greater than our own self. We need faith in our Coach’s instruction, even if it seems what is suggested is not likely to work. We should always change a losing game. Willingness is the key.
If you don’t have a trusted Coach yet, you could start by looking inside yourself for what is holding you back. Denial, fear, anger, fatigue? Ego will say the Coach isn’t needed, but look at the score.
Any change in a losing game is better than repeating same unsuccessful actions, expecting a different result.
Peace and abundance to all.